Take note if you’re talking to someone and they start biting their lip, rubbing their collarbone, or puffing up their chest. When someone wants you to like them, they’ll “use physical gestures that are meant to make themselves look more attractive,” therapist Laura Richer MA, LMHCA, NCMHCE, CHT, tells Bustle. These are “sexy” areas of the body, and they subconsciously want you to look at them.
Nine times out of ten, all these quirky little signs will mean someone is, in fact, attracted to you — or at least wants to get to know you a little bit better.
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